The story so far

I was married for decades. This marriage ended nearly 2 years ago and I have seen 2 men since then. A lasted 2 months, rebound fling, very immature but fantastic in bed. K lasted 6 months, I was his rebound fling.

All my friends except 1 are married/living with someone and struggling to find a way to meet men, I signed on for a stint on internet dating. I have now been a member for a month. So how goes that ?..... well my profile is witty, good pics and lots of response....... by men I'm not attracted to. Being a product of my generation I find myself unable to contact men I do like. I am so old I expect men to make all the moves

I am realising how bitchy I am becoming, I get annoyed by spelling mistakes on profiles ( especially when men say they want intelligent women and then spell it wrong), I hate when they write lol after something patently unfunny and I'm frankly pissed off by men in my target age (40-45) wanting to date 18 to 35 year olds, who are they kidding?

I'm smart and funny, in really good nick for 40 but as the days go by I am feeling much less confident about this. Is this my only option?

I have been on dates with 2 men, Mike and Nick and I am currently emailing a Paul.

Mike

This started quite well. He was 3 years older than me, looked nice and we had some fun emails. Then he said he was a bit put off by the fact I have children. I responded that I don't take them on dates with me and they spend most weekends with their dad. He then asked me out, we had dinner, it was fine. We arranged to meet again the following Friday but afterwards I realised I'd double booked myself. I texted him apologizing and then recieved a very hurt email saying he thought we'd got on well as was hurt I'd dumped him. I reassured him that it was a genuine error not realising that the Friday was the 23rd.
So we go out again, it was nice, he seemed keen to know why my marriage had ended and I was honest and told him, married a workaholic, no time for me, drifted apart blah blah.
Yesterday I get an email from him saying sadly he wasn't the right guy for me, although he thought I was lovely he felt intimidated by my ex being so successful.... WTF.... but he really enjoyed my company and wanted to stay in contact, again ...WTF..

I haven't responded to this, I logged on to find a man, and unless he finds a pair to strap on...

Nick

Not too handsome but perfectly acceptable. A few emails, some phone calls and we arrange to meet for a drink. About 10 mins before I'm due to leave I get a text saying he's got stuck in a meeting and has to cancel. I am seriously not impressed, I've organised a babysitter and it's fair to say there's been preparation involved. Three coats of mascara, 2 shades of lip gloss blended together and a new bra.
He phones later and asks how he can make it up to me. We reschedule and we meet for a drink, it's good. He kisses me in the car park and I mean really kisses me. It is simply the most perfect kiss I've ever had in my life, he holds me close enough to let me know he's feeling it too. He cradles my head in his hand, his other hand gently strokes my lower back, just the right amount of tongue, no sloppiness and he gently nibbles my lower lip. This is yummy. After I get home he texts me saying how lovely it was to meet me and what a great evening he's had. And then..... nothing, seriously nada, ....WTF ......Because I am a wuss I cannot text him, I am so passive, and it annoys the crap outta me.
Then 5 days after the date, he texts me, he's been busy, just bought a new house, starting a new job etc etc, still keen to see me and so we arrange to meet up. At 4pm on the day of the date, yep you guessed it, he has to cancel. He can't talk as he's going to a meeting, he'll call me. That was 4 days ago, you won't be surprised to hear I'm still waiting.....

Is this representative of men today ? or have I been unlucky ? Should I give it up as a bad job now ?