So I drove for over an hour, endured motorway traffic to have a diet coke in a " Frankie and Bennies". I spent an hour with him and then he announced that he had to get home as he's come from work and hadn't eaten yet. When did dates stop lasting the whole evening ?
He looked so nervous, like he was about to throw up at any minute. What happened to the cool, kinda quirky guy who'd been emailing me ?I swapped him a really good book " The Road to McCarthy" for a cd he's made for me, which jumped after 3 tracks.
So to clarify, I spent longer on travelling than on the date, gave away a good book and had a diet coke in a god awful American diner !
Today I had some really nice text messages from him, funny, quirky and sweet. He said " As for me, I enjoyed myself and would be truly disappointed if it only happens once "
WTF.. was he on the same date as me or am I just so unused to dates that that's how they go ?
Thursday 12 June 2008
Monday 9 June 2008
OMG
Had a brief email exchange with a Julian tonight. In the first email he sent he decribed himself as fun, friendly and submissive
I mailed back that that was an interesting choice of description
he asked me what he should call me and told me he found me sexy and did I like to be dominant
and he looked so vanilla too !
Also had soem email from a fireman, nice, very nice, see if that fizzles out ( sorry, couldn't resist it)
And some very funny ( although a bit on the quirky side) emails with a David, me likey
I mailed back that that was an interesting choice of description
he asked me what he should call me and told me he found me sexy and did I like to be dominant
and he looked so vanilla too !
Also had soem email from a fireman, nice, very nice, see if that fizzles out ( sorry, couldn't resist it)
And some very funny ( although a bit on the quirky side) emails with a David, me likey
Saturday 7 June 2008
I don't think so
Had a few winks but no one right for me. 13 men have added me as a favourite but again none of the do it for me.
Just had a text from a guy called Scott who is a friend of a friend, we went out twice. I wasn't that keen and I think he got that. I haven't spoken to him in over a month and then out of the blue a " Hi, how are you text ? " I replied quite blandly that I was fine. Then he texted back " Fancy going out for a drink tonight ? " at half past 6 on a Saturday night ?
I don't think so
Just had a text from a guy called Scott who is a friend of a friend, we went out twice. I wasn't that keen and I think he got that. I haven't spoken to him in over a month and then out of the blue a " Hi, how are you text ? " I replied quite blandly that I was fine. Then he texted back " Fancy going out for a drink tonight ? " at half past 6 on a Saturday night ?
I don't think so
Wednesday 4 June 2008
BMW Driver ?
Last night I checked my emails. I had 1 from an Alan and 1 from another Nick and 1 from a silly name. Alan seemed ok, but not too attracted to him, the other Nick included his phone number asking me to call him, I think not ! Silly name was a nice email but I just can't see me ever fancying him.
These kind make me feel bad, if people go to the trouble of reading your profile and writing a good message, funny and non pushy, should I email back saying " sorry just don't fancy you " or exchange pleasant emails knowing that on my part it's not going anywhere ?
Is there an etiquette around this ? or just every one to their own ?
Spoke to the guy I've been emailing for a week,( Paul ) today for the first time, his sense of humour is possibly on the quirky side of eccentric. He works in IT and drives a BMW, never a good sign, I fear. I have an irrational prejudice about BMW drivers, I think most of them are wankers. We have arranged to meet next Wednesday, he wants me to bring him a book I think he should read and he's going to swap me a cd he thinks I should listen to. I think this is kinda cool, my friend Christina, oh cynical, cynical, Christina thinks this is just plain weird.
Again, I wonder, where is the male equivelent of me ? I am happy, sorted out emotionally, solvent, comfortable in my own skin etc etc, just wanting to meet someone to date and see where things go.
Well, okay, I want to get laid, but I need more than just sex, honest
These kind make me feel bad, if people go to the trouble of reading your profile and writing a good message, funny and non pushy, should I email back saying " sorry just don't fancy you " or exchange pleasant emails knowing that on my part it's not going anywhere ?
Is there an etiquette around this ? or just every one to their own ?
Spoke to the guy I've been emailing for a week,( Paul ) today for the first time, his sense of humour is possibly on the quirky side of eccentric. He works in IT and drives a BMW, never a good sign, I fear. I have an irrational prejudice about BMW drivers, I think most of them are wankers. We have arranged to meet next Wednesday, he wants me to bring him a book I think he should read and he's going to swap me a cd he thinks I should listen to. I think this is kinda cool, my friend Christina, oh cynical, cynical, Christina thinks this is just plain weird.
Again, I wonder, where is the male equivelent of me ? I am happy, sorted out emotionally, solvent, comfortable in my own skin etc etc, just wanting to meet someone to date and see where things go.
Well, okay, I want to get laid, but I need more than just sex, honest
Tuesday 3 June 2008
The story so far
I was married for decades. This marriage ended nearly 2 years ago and I have seen 2 men since then. A lasted 2 months, rebound fling, very immature but fantastic in bed. K lasted 6 months, I was his rebound fling.
All my friends except 1 are married/living with someone and struggling to find a way to meet men, I signed on for a stint on internet dating. I have now been a member for a month. So how goes that ?..... well my profile is witty, good pics and lots of response....... by men I'm not attracted to. Being a product of my generation I find myself unable to contact men I do like. I am so old I expect men to make all the moves
I am realising how bitchy I am becoming, I get annoyed by spelling mistakes on profiles ( especially when men say they want intelligent women and then spell it wrong), I hate when they write lol after something patently unfunny and I'm frankly pissed off by men in my target age (40-45) wanting to date 18 to 35 year olds, who are they kidding?
I'm smart and funny, in really good nick for 40 but as the days go by I am feeling much less confident about this. Is this my only option?
I have been on dates with 2 men, Mike and Nick and I am currently emailing a Paul.
Mike
This started quite well. He was 3 years older than me, looked nice and we had some fun emails. Then he said he was a bit put off by the fact I have children. I responded that I don't take them on dates with me and they spend most weekends with their dad. He then asked me out, we had dinner, it was fine. We arranged to meet again the following Friday but afterwards I realised I'd double booked myself. I texted him apologizing and then recieved a very hurt email saying he thought we'd got on well as was hurt I'd dumped him. I reassured him that it was a genuine error not realising that the Friday was the 23rd.
So we go out again, it was nice, he seemed keen to know why my marriage had ended and I was honest and told him, married a workaholic, no time for me, drifted apart blah blah.
Yesterday I get an email from him saying sadly he wasn't the right guy for me, although he thought I was lovely he felt intimidated by my ex being so successful.... WTF.... but he really enjoyed my company and wanted to stay in contact, again ...WTF..
I haven't responded to this, I logged on to find a man, and unless he finds a pair to strap on...
Nick
Not too handsome but perfectly acceptable. A few emails, some phone calls and we arrange to meet for a drink. About 10 mins before I'm due to leave I get a text saying he's got stuck in a meeting and has to cancel. I am seriously not impressed, I've organised a babysitter and it's fair to say there's been preparation involved. Three coats of mascara, 2 shades of lip gloss blended together and a new bra.
He phones later and asks how he can make it up to me. We reschedule and we meet for a drink, it's good. He kisses me in the car park and I mean really kisses me. It is simply the most perfect kiss I've ever had in my life, he holds me close enough to let me know he's feeling it too. He cradles my head in his hand, his other hand gently strokes my lower back, just the right amount of tongue, no sloppiness and he gently nibbles my lower lip. This is yummy. After I get home he texts me saying how lovely it was to meet me and what a great evening he's had. And then..... nothing, seriously nada, ....WTF ......Because I am a wuss I cannot text him, I am so passive, and it annoys the crap outta me.
Then 5 days after the date, he texts me, he's been busy, just bought a new house, starting a new job etc etc, still keen to see me and so we arrange to meet up. At 4pm on the day of the date, yep you guessed it, he has to cancel. He can't talk as he's going to a meeting, he'll call me. That was 4 days ago, you won't be surprised to hear I'm still waiting.....
Is this representative of men today ? or have I been unlucky ? Should I give it up as a bad job now ?
All my friends except 1 are married/living with someone and struggling to find a way to meet men, I signed on for a stint on internet dating. I have now been a member for a month. So how goes that ?..... well my profile is witty, good pics and lots of response....... by men I'm not attracted to. Being a product of my generation I find myself unable to contact men I do like. I am so old I expect men to make all the moves
I am realising how bitchy I am becoming, I get annoyed by spelling mistakes on profiles ( especially when men say they want intelligent women and then spell it wrong), I hate when they write lol after something patently unfunny and I'm frankly pissed off by men in my target age (40-45) wanting to date 18 to 35 year olds, who are they kidding?
I'm smart and funny, in really good nick for 40 but as the days go by I am feeling much less confident about this. Is this my only option?
I have been on dates with 2 men, Mike and Nick and I am currently emailing a Paul.
Mike
This started quite well. He was 3 years older than me, looked nice and we had some fun emails. Then he said he was a bit put off by the fact I have children. I responded that I don't take them on dates with me and they spend most weekends with their dad. He then asked me out, we had dinner, it was fine. We arranged to meet again the following Friday but afterwards I realised I'd double booked myself. I texted him apologizing and then recieved a very hurt email saying he thought we'd got on well as was hurt I'd dumped him. I reassured him that it was a genuine error not realising that the Friday was the 23rd.
So we go out again, it was nice, he seemed keen to know why my marriage had ended and I was honest and told him, married a workaholic, no time for me, drifted apart blah blah.
Yesterday I get an email from him saying sadly he wasn't the right guy for me, although he thought I was lovely he felt intimidated by my ex being so successful.... WTF.... but he really enjoyed my company and wanted to stay in contact, again ...WTF..
I haven't responded to this, I logged on to find a man, and unless he finds a pair to strap on...
Nick
Not too handsome but perfectly acceptable. A few emails, some phone calls and we arrange to meet for a drink. About 10 mins before I'm due to leave I get a text saying he's got stuck in a meeting and has to cancel. I am seriously not impressed, I've organised a babysitter and it's fair to say there's been preparation involved. Three coats of mascara, 2 shades of lip gloss blended together and a new bra.
He phones later and asks how he can make it up to me. We reschedule and we meet for a drink, it's good. He kisses me in the car park and I mean really kisses me. It is simply the most perfect kiss I've ever had in my life, he holds me close enough to let me know he's feeling it too. He cradles my head in his hand, his other hand gently strokes my lower back, just the right amount of tongue, no sloppiness and he gently nibbles my lower lip. This is yummy. After I get home he texts me saying how lovely it was to meet me and what a great evening he's had. And then..... nothing, seriously nada, ....WTF ......Because I am a wuss I cannot text him, I am so passive, and it annoys the crap outta me.
Then 5 days after the date, he texts me, he's been busy, just bought a new house, starting a new job etc etc, still keen to see me and so we arrange to meet up. At 4pm on the day of the date, yep you guessed it, he has to cancel. He can't talk as he's going to a meeting, he'll call me. That was 4 days ago, you won't be surprised to hear I'm still waiting.....
Is this representative of men today ? or have I been unlucky ? Should I give it up as a bad job now ?
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